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I don’t think I’ve been regular-people-sick in a while, so I kinda forgot what it’s like, but with all the sneezing, coughing, snotty nose, itchy eyes, dry skin, and achy muscles I’ve been dealing with…I’m pretty sure I have a cold.

I took some DayQuil earlier this morning but I still feel all fuzzy. Ugh ugh ugh I don’t have time or spoons for this today. Or ever.

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These are some silly things I do when I’m sad and need a distraction.

  • Make popcorn, and try to catch it on your tongue. Bonus points if you hit yourself in the eye.
  • Turn on your favorite CD. For every song, draw a picture. When the song goes off and a new one starts, start a new picture.
  • Open minecraft, creative mode. Dig straight down, then lay TNT all the way back up. Set it off. Go witness the caves you just opened up.
  • Pet a dog. If you don’t have a dog, pet a cat. If the cat refuses, wrap him in a blanket and hug him. If you don’t have either one of these, hug your favorite stuffed animal and give it a kiss.
  • Write a complimentary letter to a stranger and put it in your library book when you return it.
  • Make a video log. Talk about everything you remember from the last month.
  • Draw a picture of your dream home. 
  • Turn the lights out, put your headphones on. Click here
  • Make ridiculous faces, make a photo collage. Challenge a friend to mimic your faces.
  • Read your favorite book.
  • Take 1 packet of hot cocoa, mix with warm milk. Mix roughly half a table spoon of vanilla and a sprinkle of cinnamon.
  • Collect fortune cookie fortunes, tape them to a binder.
  • Send 5 random followers a message.
  • Write a message to your favorite celebrity. Send it, or don’t.
  • Put marshmallows on a microwaveable plate, and stick them in the microwave for 10-20 seconds. Watch them through the glass.

Feel free to add things. Pass the list around. You never know who might need it.

I think one thing you can do to help your friends who are depressed is to reach out to them not in the spirit of helping, but in the spirit of liking them and wanting their company. “I’m here to help if you ever need me” is good to know, but hard to act on, especially when you’re in a dark place. Specific, ongoing, pleasure-based invitations are much easier to absorb. “I’m here. Let’s go to the movies. Or stay in and order takeout and watch some dumb TV.” “I’m having a party, it would be really great if you could come for a little while.” Ask them for help with things you know they are good at and like doing, so there is reciprocity and a way for them to contribute. “Will you come over Sunday and help me clear my closet of unfashionable and unflattering items? I trust your eye.” “Will you read this story I wrote and help me fix the dialogue?” “Want to make dinner together? You chop, I’ll assemble.” “I am going glasses shopping and I need another set of eyes.” Remind yourself why you like this person, and in the process, remind them that they are likable and worth your time and interest.

Talk to the parts of the person that aren’t being eaten by the depression. Make it as easy as possible to make and keep plans, if you have the emotional resources to be the initiator and to meet your friends a little more than halfway. If the person turns down a bunch of invitations in a row because (presumably) they don’t have the energy to be social, respect their autonomy by giving it a month or two and then try again. Keep the invitations simple; “Any chance we could have breakfast Saturday?” > “ARE YOU AVOIDING ME BECAUSE YOU’RE DEPRESSED OR BECAUSE YOU HATE ME I AM ONLY TRYING TO HELP YOU.” “I miss you and I want to see you” > “I’m worried about you.” A depressed person is going to have a shame spiral about how their shame is making them avoid you and how that’s giving them more shame, which is making them avoid you no matter what you do. No need for you to call attention to it. Just keep asking. “I want to see you” “Let’s do this thing.” “If you are feeling low, I understand, and I don’t want to impose on you, but I miss your face. Please come have coffee with me.” “Apology accepted. ApologIES accepted. So. Gelato and Outlander?”

#613: How do I reach out to my friends who have depression? | Captain Awkward

P.S. A lot of people with depression and other mental illnesses have trouble making decisions or choosing from a bunch of different options. “Wanna get dinner at that pizza place on Tuesday night?” is a LOT easier to answer than “So wanna hang out sometime? What do you want to do?”

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